Raising The Awareness Of Our Thoughts
What Thought Patterns No Longer Serve You?
Our minds allow us to forecast, remember, organize, categorize, evaluate, and so much more. Homeostasis — or the tendency to maintain the system — is a strong, universal force to maintain a system as a well-oiled machine. We all have an inner voice — or voices — that hold us back. Preserving the status quo as part of their job. The bigger the dream, the bigger the saboteur. Sometimes called the “Inner Critic,” “Negative Self Talk,” the saboteur has all the reasons for why this plan is a stupid, dangerous, hopeless or otherwise ill-advised course of action.
Examples Of Unhealthy Thought Patterns
Overestimating the probability that something negative will happen. Example: You believe that you’re in danger of being fired despite no indication to support your belief.
Assuming (non-factual thinking) you know what people are thinking, and what will happen in the future. Examples: You’re sure your children’s lives will be unhappy if they don’t get into the right school.
Expecting the worst
Overestimating the consequences of something negative happening. Example: You imagine receiving a bad review or your project not being approved, and not being able to handle it.
It’s not fair
Over-focusing on whether things are just, fair, or right. Examples: “It’s not fair that other people don’t have the same health problems I do.” “It’s not right that someone else got the job I wanted.”
Seeing things in black-and-white. Things are either all good or all bad. There’s no in-between. Example: Only seeing the negative aspects and none of the solutions or opportunities presented.
Over-focusing on an imagined outcome as the solution to all your problems. Example: Getting a promotion, finding a partner.
Rigid rules for how the world should operate and how people should think, feel, and behave. Examples: “Things shouldn’t be this way.” “I shouldn’t feel so stressed.”
Basing your interpretation solely on your emotional reactions. Example: “I feel anxious, therefore something bad must be happening.”
Overestimating your influence on negative events; taking things personally. Example: When your partner is unhappy, you feel like it’s all your fault.
Thoughts are true
Treating thoughts like facts. Most often their until they’re based on actual knowing, not understanding. Example: You think a friend is mad at you and therefore you assume it’s true.