We all do it. Creating ideas we tend to cling onto for dear life. Ideas that are not based on facts, evidence, guidance, or reality. What am I referring to boys and girls? UNFOUNDED EXPECTATIONS! That's right. Made up shit in our minds based on valid desires that are backed by zero evidence or guidance.
People often ask, "What led you to become a life coach?" Well, in all honesty, it was a desire for learning how to listen better. I have been told by previous partners that I did not know how to listen. My history in relationships, you see, is quite a tumultuous one. You know how it goes, even though we speak the same language, it often feels like no one is listening. Go figure.
A few months ago, hauling butt down I-77 southbound when all of a sudden there was a sound. “I didn’t see anything in the road,” I say to Diana a little perplexed. “Neither did I,” she responds. I look in the rearview to see nothing trailing behind us. Then a vibration fills the cabin. Slowly we make our way to the shoulder on the right side of the freeway.
There has been an emerging clarification from our lovely universe as of late. Life mirrors life. My client's experiences are mirroring mine lately. Their humanity mirrors mine, our outer worlds reflect our inner worlds. When we feel great, life seems effortless. When we whirl down undesirable rabbit holes, life seems to be rife with angst and struggle.
There is a notable shift toward greater alignment with inclusivity and mindful acceptance. The disruptive responses currently being experienced throughout society is an expected result of the expansion process. As longstanding paradigms within the collective reach the end of their life cycles, as with ego, there will be an instinctive fight for their survival. And that is A-OK.
Ever feel you're living someone else's life? I've been there. No fun. I remember feeling like a passenger on a train watching my life pass by. It was a very surreal experience realizing I was a spectator of my own life. Such a powerless feeling resorting to asking Who’s am I living? “Certainly not my own” I would think in defeated frustration.
Future?!? What is future? Simply put, a now occurring after this Now. Well, isn’t that just another Now? Or is it nothing more than the power of choice made in every Now? A continuous weaving of possibilities into potential new timelines. See what I did there? LoL!
There was a time when all decisions I made were base on a “Future” created in my mind. Yeah me, the guy that generally doesn’t plan beyond next week…
In a coaching session with a dear client of mine...
We'll call her "June" in honor of confidentiality. Anywho, the topic began as wanting clarity from the Universe. "Fair enough," I thought. Being in transition over an extended period of time will have that effect on anyone. Right?!? As we get into a groove, I noticed June sharing desires with underlying reasons based on fear. We dance a bit conversationally as the topic ebbs and flows, then clarity arrives with an uplifting BOOM taking over her entire being.
So here's how my story of reintegrating back to wholeness went down. After repeating the same patterns time and time again of volatile and uncomfortable relationships, I'd had enough. So I did what anyone else in my situation would do. Really, not really. I sought healing through Psychotherapy and Life Coaching, simultaneously. I get that not everyone would leap so boldly, but I was desperate to uncover what the F was wrong with me. Clearly, something in me was broken. I mean for realz.
How to materialize the life you want. This topic has been a while in the making. Now that I've finally figured out the "How" in materializing my desires I felt compelled to share it with you. What I learned is there are three very critical components, especially for those of us wondering how do some people do it so easily, in the art of manifesting.
Okay, so I'm in a session with a client and coaching colleague, Noelle. Really cool lady. As with all my sessions, the empowerment gained not only serves them, it's clearly a message I am to heed as well. Their learning is my learning. So the topic of showing-up bubbles to the surface, but not in the way you are probably thinking right now. After concluding our session it got me thinking. How am I showing up? What really detonated this proverbial mushroom cloud in my mind was the following inquiry.
Go ahead, queue up the next wound for me to heal... said no one ever! "What the heck are you yammer about now Ty?" A sweet friend of mine Rachel, whom I'd like to thank for the inspiration to write this impromptu post, recently made reference to a Universal fact. The moment we courageously enter a space to begin facing ourselves a Universal "Healing Queue" co-creates everything we need to heal our ourselves.
Think you know what it takes to launch a business? After 17+ years in corporate America thought I learned a thing or two about business. I learned nothing!
Working for myself is a whole new beast altogether. I am the Owner, Graphic Designer, Marketing, Sales, and Transformational Life Coach, etc. for That Loving Space. This is not my first attempt at starting a business though.